Start Dating a nice guy but

Dating a nice guy but

The woman who dates starving artists marries a rich, balding lawyer. She worked with one of my terrific Dating Coaches and created a gem of a marriage with a short plain guy who was her champion and a healing force of nature in her life.

Women like to date a ‘bad boy’ because he is the ultimate challenge, a challenge to get and and challenge to keep.

Why, you might ask, would a women want such a dysfunctional dating lifestyle and subsequent relationship?

A word of warning before we get started though, if you you’re the nice guy – then you’re probably not.

If you’ve ever described yourself as too-nice, then you’re definitely not.

Have a think and work this one out: are you the gentleman holding a door open so a girl can walk through the entrance to a restaurant?

Or are you the nice guy who throws himself against the door and lets the girl through as well as the group of lurking men behind her and even introduce them to said girl? On to the important stuff now, our 10 reasons why women might be viewing you as the ‘nice guy’… OVER-CARING/OVERBEARING Nice guys try to fix and take care of a girls problems – this is what her girlfriends are for (over a glass of wine and a soppy movie) and not what she wants from a potential date – that comes later. COMPLAINING ABOUT BEING SINGLE Word travels fast gentlemen, and if a woman knows that you want a girlfriend then you lack the challenge appeal that all women are drawn to. COMPLAINING ABOUT BEING IN THE FRIEND-ZONE If you can’t be friends with a woman without resenting the fact that you’re not in the “sex-zone”, then you’ve got yourself a problem. SEEKING APPROVAL FROM OTHERS Doing the ‘right’ thing might sound great, but it sends instant signals to women that you lack spontaneity and that you over-analyse situations rather than acting on raw instinct. BEING EMOTIONALLY DEPENDANT ON YOUR OTHER HALF Women want a boyfriend, not a rescue puppy.

If you’ve ever been dumped and heard those immortal words, “you’re just too nice, you deserve better”, then you’re definitely the nice guy and what she really meant when she said that was that she was bored of constantly feeling guilty for not being as ‘nice’ as you – a little bit of fire and drama never hurt any relationship. BEING TOO EAGER TO PLEASE Girls absolutely love a guy who’s nice, of course they do.

But they definitely don’t like a guy who goes overboard in trying to please them the time, especially if they’re not in a relationship already.

These are the kind of men who are already firmly in arsehole territory and we see straight through those pitiful eyes and the fake BS that comes out of your mouth.

The real nice guys are the ones that don’t even realise that this is the reason for their infinite single-dom.

The long list of demands I used to have for a partner (Brunette! And that’s when I met a boy, who we will call Bartholomew (I’m sorry, but if I’m going to choose a fake name, go big or go home.) Bartholomew was kind.